Sunday, May 31, 2009
A few weeks ago on a Wednesday night game, I was asked by a few guys if I would be interested in checking out their AHA (adult hockey association) club team. They play 20 games a season plus playoff (if they make it). They had a practice today and I decided to go check it out.
Well, as I suspected, I loved it and everyone is super nice! They had a spot open for a forward and a defense position so I took the forward one. Probably center. The captain is even ordering my jersey tomorrow with the number I picked (#87).
I am so excited to be playing organized hockey. Granted the season doesn't start for a few months, but there will be several practices this summer. And I will continue to play JMS hockey until the league starts.
This, my friends, is what I love.
What are your thoughts on divorce... do you think people give up too easily these days? Are there Biblical grounds for divorce other than marital unfaithfulness? What about spousal abuse?
Signed, Pondering in Pennsylvania
I definitely think there are some people who give up on their marriage too easily these days. I think the problem lies with people thinking from the beginning that divorce is an option if they fall out of love. A marriage commitment is one to take seriously and one of the most important decisions of one's life. It goes without saying that you are going to have hard times, differences of opinions, and things to work through. Also, people change... maybe not in big ways, but things happen in the course of your life that causes you to grow, change, think differently, etc and you have to go in to marriage knowing that people are not going to be exactly the same as they were on your wedding day. You just have to find a way to grow together, listen, and communicate... and the biggest thing... always put your spouse before yourself. If you are putting their needs before your own (and they are doing the same) you should be able to work through anything. And another thing... no close friends of the opposite sex... mutual friends, yes. But seriously people, you can't have close friends of the opposite sex...
Besides marital unfaithfulness, I also believe a Biblical grounds for divorce is if your unbelieving spouse leaves you. And in regards to abuse... this is my own opinion and I don't have a verse to substantiate this, but I think if you are being abused (physically, sexually, emotionally, mentally) then you can leave. At that point it's dangerous to be in the situation and especially if you have kids involved... no good.
What is a good way to approach confronting a family member? Especially when you'll see that family member(s) often...
Confused by confrontation in Connecticut
First, really evaluate your motive for wanting to confront the person. Then, I honestly think a mature, adult conversation is the best way to handle this. Call them up (or if you are comfortable emailing... no texing) and ask them if you can meet for coffee, dinner, a walk, etc. And as hard as confrontation is sometimes, you gotta just bite the bullet and address the elephant in the room. Once you get together, bring up what is on your mind... be nice about it... if your motive is genuinely pure, your concern for them or the situation should show through. If it is something that the family member will need help with, offer to help or be willing to find help if you can't be that person. And be willing to listen to feedback... maybe you have a part in this and you have something to work on to. Be humble. If this is an issue you have to agree to disagree on, then be willing to set aside your differences when you are at family functions and avoid that issue. If the issue comes up, be the bigger person and bite your tongue or excuse yourself and leave the room. Life is too short to live at odds with family. You may not always agree with them, but they are still family and it's important to always support the person, even if you don't support their decisions. Sometimes there is nothing you can do about a family member who refuses to be civil and in those situations, once you've done all you can, just be nice and enjoy the company of everyone else.
Hope this answers your question...
Saturday, May 30, 2009
Thursday, May 28, 2009
Do you hate when you go to eat it on your lunch break (or half way through your nature hike, or when you need a snack during your day at the beach, etc) you find that the jelly has made your bread soggy?
Put peanut butter on both pieces of bread (you can do it lightly if you don't want extra PB)... and then put the jelly on one (or both) sides.
As long as you cover both slices of bread completely with a layer of PB, your bread won't get soggy at all!
Wednesday, May 27, 2009
So anyway, first thing is first.... I need an image to post with each "dear jessica" entry. And since I don't want to make one, let's make it a contest... if you want to enter one, email it to me (email@example.com) and then I will post all entries and let YOU all pick the favorite!
Next, I will go with the comment moderation idea! Each time I solicite "dear jessica" questions I will turn on the comment moderation... I have never done this before but I am assuming I will just copy the questions and then not approve the comment? When I turn comment moderation back ON, I will try to post a notice on my blog so that you know not to post anymore questions.
I agree that the question askers will be left anonymous so if you forget to sign it "Lost without Him" (or something like that) then I will make one up for you!
I will do my best to answer everyone's questions... just remember... you have to ask questions because I can't ask myself for advice =)
Did I forget anything? Any other suggestions?
PS: COMMENT MODERATION IS NOT ON YET... =)
Tuesday, May 26, 2009
So the next step is to solicit ideas on how people can ask questions... this is where you come in...
-Should the questions be confidential from other readers? or in other words, should the questions be asked by posting on my blog or a private email sent to me?
-Are you willing to submit questions (I'm not going to make them up... it would defeat the purpose of the feature )?! This is only fun if everyone plays =)
What I do know:
-the questions will be fun, serious, hypothetical, etc (as my dear cousin Elizabeth suggested)
-you can sign your name as your real name or make up something, like, "Fed up in Phoenix"
-I will answer questions honestly, as if I were giving advice to my best friend
-I give good advice =) hehe
OK... any other thoughts or suggestions?!
Monday, May 25, 2009
Feel free to change your vote in light of that information... otherwise, bring it on!
Oh and I enable it so that you can vote for more than one feature...
Sunday, May 24, 2009
Which type of "town" or "city" do you live in? And what do you like about it?
I live in a suburb of the twin cities... just before that, I lived in St. Paul, and before that, a suburb of Sacramento. I've also lived in a small town in Northern Minnesota. I definitely prefer the suburbs... and here's why:
- Accesss to everything in the city w/o living in it
- Accesss to the country
- Lots of things to do
- Way more options for shopping than in a small town
- Lots of people around
- Major airport is close by
- Professional sports teams are in the area and you can go see a game last minute
- Freeways... knowing how to drive on them is huge... you can always tell when a small town resident is on the freeway because they are so scared and driving really slow or crazy
- Many more options for recreation, especially if you want it to be organized (like teams)
- You don't know everyone when you go to Target and consequently, you don't feel like you have to stop and say hi to people... and furthermore, you also don't have to worry about who you accidently cut off while driving, or who will hear the latest gossip spread about you, etc...
- Diversity... cultures, view points, religions, food, etc... and not just "hearing about them" but seeing them and being able to dissolve ignorant perceptions about people groups (I am not saying if you are from a small town you are ignorant... I'm just saying that living in a big city is one of the many ways people gain a broad and accurate world view).
- More job opportunities and earning potential
Okay that is my list for now... I realize that living in a small town, in the big city, in a foreign country (Redins), in the country, etc all have great features too and that is what I want to hear from you!
Where do you live and what do you love about it?!
Tuesday, May 19, 2009
Anyway, I glazed 3 of my 4 pieces... the colors will change a little once these pieces are re-fired but you can still get the idea...
The blue, polka dotted one is going to my dad (and mom) for popcorn... it's kind of small so they will need to get a few refills probably, but at least they'll think of me, right?
The other two are for me! Yay!! And the 4th one I made is a little flower pot... tonight I cut a hole in the bottom of it for water drainage... I will post a pic of that one once I make some more progress on it....
Sunday, May 17, 2009
Wednesday, May 13, 2009
I played again tonight and it was so much fun! Everyone is so nice and out there to just have a good time! And it never hurts when you score a goal (or 3 - hat trick!!! woot woot)!
Minnesota is the state for me!!! I have no doubts left that this move to MN from CA was the right one!
Oh and "Thanks Dad" for introducing hockey to me! =)
Tuesday, May 12, 2009
Having picked them up from many different people, and maybe coming up with a few on my own, here are a list of my favorite catch phrases that I use or hear on a regular basis:
- I know, right?
- Just saying...
- Just throwing it out there... see where it lands...
- I'm not gonna lie....
- Woot woot!!!
- I'm there...
- No... for real!
- Saying abbreviations like OMG! WTF? BTW...
- Just set 'em up...
- Just pay it...
- Here's the thing...
- No problem
- Yeeeeeaaaaahhhhh Booooooyyyyy
- Ho Hum
What are some of your favorite catch phrases that you use, hear other people use, or even ones that you hear and they totally annoy you?!
Monday, May 11, 2009
What "healthy" thing do you do to cope with anger or frustration?
Let's get prayer and meditation out of the way as remedies because those are pretty obvious ones... I'm looking for hands on and tangible stuff... like punching a wall, only something that doesn't have such negative repercussions lol... like throwing a bag of marshmallows maybe? It doesn't hurt anyone, won't break anything (unless you miss the wall and hit the ceramic vase you inherited), and let's you release emotions in a physical way.
*Just as a side note, I'm not always angry and frustrated, but I gave up punching walls a long time ago and could use a good, alternative way to release those emotions. What better place to solicite ideas than a blog!?
Sunday, May 10, 2009
Sometimes we dwell in the past and don't look to the future and other times, we refuse to look back to the past and recognize that those moments define our future.
Often times I wish I knew about the great moments in advance. That way I could anticipate them, because I love to anticipate great things. I truely believe that half the enjoyment of good moments is from anticipating it. Kind of like looking forward to a trip.
Learn from your past. Anticipate the future. But live for today.
You never know which "today" might be your last moment in time.
Thursday, May 7, 2009
The Song "Show Me What I'm Looking For" - by Carolina Liar - is a recent song that I feel like sums up many of my thoughts lately. I have no idea what this song meant to the songwriter; as with most songs, it has it's own meaning for me personally.
Charlie- I know you think it's cheesy for me to post song lyrics, but I so am going to. lol... but at least I didn't write the lyrics and then post them for all my friends to see because I thought they were so good when really they aren't, right? A little credit for that?
Anyway, here are the lyrics... many of you may have heard this song...
Wait, I’m wrong
Should have done better than this
Please, I’ll be strong
I’m finding it hard to resist
So show me what I’m looking for
Save me, I’m lost
Oh lord, I’ve been waiting for you
I’ll pay any cost
Save me from being confused
Show me what I’m looking for
Show me what I’m looking for…oh lord
Don’t let go
I’ve wanted this far too long
Mistakes become regrets
I’ve learned to love abuse
Please show me what I’m looking for
(chorus repeats a few times)
How does this song have meaning for me? Well, in short, I feel confused about a lot of life/God things lately... that's all the info I'm going to give. hehe
What song(s) do YOU relate to? Can be recent or in the past... post a comment with the song... you can post lyrics and explain why it means something to you or just post the title...
Tuesday, May 5, 2009
By request, as opposed to wanting to "show off" my masterpieces, I am posting a few pictures of the stuff I've been working on in my pottery class. One thing I have learned about pottery is "be flexible" - until you are a master potter, you can't really have a finished product in mind when you sit down to "throw" your clay. You simply have to follow the steps of the wheel (center the clay, cone, center, cone, center, cone, center, poke hole in center, bring walls out, and bring walls up). The wheel will show you what you are destined to make. See Exhibit A:
I can't write a post about my life and not mention that I watch Grey's Anatomy on Thursday nights with my roommate and a few of our friends. It's a great time and there are always tears (on their end of the couch... I don't cry)... this week, it's Merideth Grey and Derick Shephard's wedding and we are going to celebrate with pizza and we might even make a wedding cake!
I guess that is it for now... hopefully I'm not forgetting anything major!
Monday, May 4, 2009
- Hockey on Wednesday night
- Pottery class on Tuesday
- Next night out with the girls from work
- Seeing Taylor and Hannah this weekend
- Vacation (in general)
- Rachel coming to visit
- Sleep - always excited about that!
- Grey's on Thursday
- Slept in
- Took my multivitamin
- Went for a few walks
- Painted my toenails
- Had Panera for dinner
- Watched Grey's reruns
- Talked to Rachel on the phone
- Chatted with Jon online about homeschooling
- travel more
- have kids of my own (and a hubby of course)
- afford a new phone because my cell phone is a piece of poop
- pay off my student loans
- get lasik eye surgery
- convince people to let me mow their lawn because I enjoy it
- buy new clothes when I need them
- know when it is and isn't awkward to give/receive a hug
- Grey's Anatomy
- Hell's Kitchen
- Tom and Jerry (because that means I am watching it with Taylor)
- News channels (CNN and FOX)
- Ice hockey (I know that isn't a "show" but it's on TV so it counts)
- America's Next Top Model
I am tagging YOU if you read this and you have a blog and you haven't done it yet! And hey, it's a good excuse for those of you whose last post was like, a month ago, to start blogging again!